Been Brutally Judged by others?
I was in a meeting last week and the group got really worked up about something. Like fiery passion blazed through the roof worked up. In about 2 minutes flat it was a heated debate.
I was judged, attacked, berated and publicly shamed for sharing a different view than the group majority.
Why do these things happen? It’s not just that we have a strong fire-in-the-belly passion…This happens in large part because we all have a part of us that JUDGES others and when that part of us feels threatened in some way, it can go wild.
In a group setting it can be magnified and multiplied when all our judgers have similar views and agree with and support each other. Then we find ourselves in the midst of a big ole JUDGEFEST.
And holy moly it can be BRUTAL being on the receiving end. I am still reeling and licking my wounds.
So let’s break this down, how do we speak our truth with passion, but do it in a way that it can be received in a humane way?
TRUTH with Compassion = WISDOM
TRUTH without Compassion = BRUTALITY
Let’s talk about TRUTH…
We can all be passionate about our “truth” – whatever that is. But truth is all relative and lies in the heart, context, and reference point of the beholder. Our ego fights hard to be heard and defend our truth as always right and the best view. If left unchecked, it will do anything – including attacking and beating on others – to prove this.
Let’s talk about COMPASSION…
Having compassion as we share our truth means we:
- Remember people’s humanity and our own humility
- Care and think about how our truth might land or impact others
- Consider and respect the context, background and views of others that may be different than ours
Imagine how our workplaces and worlds would be different if we could all learn how to speak truth with compassion? Awwh, now those are some meetings I want to be at…
Want to learn more about how to tame and transform that part of you that judges and ignite your wisdom and compassion?
Message me to learn about the group and private coaching programs kicking off in September that:
- Heightened self-awareness of what triggers the judge and its impact on work, relationships and life
- Practices for mindfully shifting from negative patterns to positivity, neutrality and productive peace
- Brain and behavioral changes that bring on positive intelligence, well-being and better results
Thanks for being part of my community. See you next time with more Nuggets of Truth!
My best always,
Jen
